Sexual kinks are sexual activities and preferences that fall outside of standard practices. Some examples include bondage, cuckolding, role-playing, voyeurism and sadomasochism.
To do kink safely, it is important to communicate and establish boundaries. It is also helpful to use a safe word and consistently check in. This is especially true when exploring kinks like restraint play.
1. Fetishes
Fetishes are an umbrella term for non-normative sexual interests. They can include kinky sex toys, but also nonphysical acts like bondage and humiliation play. Some fetishes are as simple as using a scarf or tie to restrain your partner, while others go all out with kinky sex equipment.
If you’re interested in trying a new kink, start slow and introduce it gradually. It’s important to discuss your fetishes with your partner, and make sure that both of you are enthusiastic about this kind of play.
You can find out more about kinky sex by exploring kinky media. Books, porn, and podcasts can all teach you about new kinky techniques to try. You may also be surprised to discover that your partner has a few kinky fetishes of their own.
2. Age play
Age play is a kink that involves consenting adults identifying as someone else’s age or in an age range different from their own. It can take many forms, including fetishes like diapering, regression, and more. It can also include lifestyle identities and power exchange. It can range from an occasional role-play scenario to a full-time relationship where one person is the big or little and the other lives in their preferred age range 24/7.
It’s important to note that just because someone is into age play doesn’t mean they want sex. There are plenty of non-sexual ways to play this kink, such as playing with dolls or having innocent, platonic conversations. In fact, some people are into age play as a form of spiritual awakening and growth.
It’s also important to communicate openly with a partner(s) when engaging in this type of kink and regularly check in throughout the process. This will help ensure that both parties are comfortable with the scene and feel safe. It can also be helpful to agree on a “safe word” that either of you can use to stop the scene if it becomes uncomfortable or unsafe.
3. Dirty talk
Dirty talk is a major turn on for many people, and it can be fun to experiment with during sexual activities. It’s important to remember that not everyone enjoys this type of conversation, however, so don’t force it.
Kink is a broad term that can encompass any activity that’s out of the ordinary in the bedroom, including things like teasing, role play, and oral kink. It can also include more explicit activities, such as bondage, exhibitionism, and voyeurism.
For those who aren’t comfortable talking dirty face to face, sexting can be a great way to try out some kinky conversations. Some sex apps have built-in features that can help with the process, and erotic fiction is another excellent source of inspiration. Manta suggests using a different name for your partner when first trying out this technique, so that you can step outside of yourself and make it feel safer and less intimidating. Getting feedback afterward can also be helpful, as it can help you perfect your performance. This can also give you clues about what types of kinky conversation might make your partner more turned on.
4. Voyeurism
Voyeurism is the act of watching someone naked or having sex without their consent. It is considered a paraphilic disorder and can cause distress and interfere with other areas of functioning. It can be triggered by viewing graphic pornography, nudes in adult magazines, or even a video of someone else getting undressed. This type of behavior is illegal, and if it causes significant distress you may need to seek professional help.
Some degree of voyeuristic fascination is normal, but some people become obsessed. Those with this condition find it difficult to control their urges and fantasies and find it hard to function in everyday life. A therapist can teach you how to combat voyeuristic tendencies and provide alternative means of sexual gratification. Treatment may also include consuming pornography to address your urges and cravings in a safe way.
Kink is a term that refers to anything that goes beyond vanilla (mainstream) sexual behaviour. Exhibitionism is a kink that involves enjoying showing off your body and can include things like trying a butt plug or using handcuffs for partnered play.
5. Virtual sex
In the age of Snapchat and sexting, it’s less taboo to have erotic conversations or even sex with strangers through digital platforms. This is known as virtual sex and encompasses any sexual activity done on or with a computer, phone, or internet-connected device. It can include anything from a video call to sexting over text messages. It’s also possible to explore kinky fetishes with virtual partners like foot play, such as exchanging photos of feet and engaging in arousing foot massages or pedicures.
Another kink many people enjoy is voyeurism. This kink involves enjoying other people’s experiences, such as watching someone strip or masturbate. It can be as subtle as posting a nude photo online or as intense as watching a sexy porno on YouTube.
Other kinky fetishes you can explore with a virtual partner include choking, which is arousing when practiced sensually. This kink is risky and should be performed with a trusted partner who has had several conversations about safety and boundaries. Another option is to find a class on choking from a reputable sex and kink educator and practice with a friend in a safe place before trying it with an intimate partner.
